"Poetry is never dangerous."
Juliet of the Spirits / Giulietta degli spiriti
Federico Fellini | 1965
Gianni Di Venanzo | Cinematography
OutKast - Ms. Jackson (Stankonia, 2000)
50 Shades of Grey disgusts me. No, not because it is trite and terribly executed literature, which it is, rather it disgusts me because it is NOT an accurate portrayal of a BDSM relationship. BDSM is a community that believes in safety and comfort. Consent is always necessary. The entire premise of the book is shady because it glorifies rape culture and sexual abuse. Every time someone mislabels 50 Shades as a normal BDSM relationship they become complicit in the normalization of rape culture, sexual abuse and, in turn, the vilification of people who practice BDSM by likening them to perpetrators of sexual abuse. In the story, Mr. Grey gives a virgin Anastasia a sexual contract to sign. She is sexually inexperienced and he manipulates that to push her boundaries to make it seem like the violent things he is doing to her are okay. He uses alcohol to sway her consent - that is by law RAPE. He ignores her use of a safe word - that is by law SEXUAL ASSAULT. The book is a slap in the face of anyone who participates in healthy BDSM relationships. The story romanticizes and fetishizes abuse and making abuse seem fun and desirable is dangerous for women. I find it misguided and quite frankly appalling. I hope confused men don’t use the story as a springboard to hide their own desire to assault women and I hope women who find the story appealing don’t ever allow themselves to become victims. BDSM is about loving and caring for your partner and participating in healthy activities with mutual desire and consent. 50 Shades of Grey missed that point completely and I pray those of you who enjoy that garbage don’t make the same mistake.
Sex Happening Location
Emanel, India ink, Rotring pen and marker on paper